A perfectionistic over-controller is a type of coping mode that some people use to avoid criticism and misfortune by striving for perfection and avoiding errors. People with this mode may spend excessive amounts of time and energy on tasks that require high standards, such as work, study, or grooming.
Its function is to create a distance from vulnerable feelings through the cultivation of a sense of “being on top of something,” or “being in control of something.”
Perfectionistic over-controller mode can cause a lot of stress, anxiety, and exhaustion, as well as interfere with one’s relationships, self-esteem, and happiness.
If you think that you have a perfectionistic or/and an over-controller coping mode, you may benefit from schema therapy or other approach that can help you challenge your unrealistic expectations and develop more balanced and flexible mindset.
